A young woman has generated outrage online after revealing her story of a terrible relationship she suffered for years in the name of romance.
Her narrative, uploaded on X by quamclips, depicts her explaining the emotional and physical violence she reportedly endured while living with her former lover.
The lady claims she stayed in the relationship for four years despite constant red flags.
She claimed she always went out of her way to please her spouse, even when he showed little appreciation for her presence in his life.
She mentioned instances in which she performed arduous tasks, such as hand washing clothes in the sun, while he remained unconcerned about her efforts.
The young lady also said that her ex denied her in front of his pastor, claiming that he hadn’t yet found a wife to marry, despite the fact that they were living together.
She also claimed that the relationship was physically violent, saying that he would assault her and then try to excuse his behaviour.
Despite her sacrifices, such as using her resources to buy him gifts and helping him through difficult times, she claims her efforts were frequently overlooked or unappreciated.
She also mentioned instances in which he prioritised his buddies above her and showed her little respect in public.
She revealed that she eventually became pregnant, but referred to her ex as a “deadbeat,” implying that he failed to accept responsibility once the child was created.
Reflection on her experience, she said:
“If you think you’ve ever done stupid things for love, just remember that when I was dating my ex, there was a day I was outside on a Saturday, washing his clothes with my bare hands because he said using a washing machine would make me lazy.
We lived together, so I was in his house. He came out to where I was, cleaning his slippers because he was about to go out. Then his phone rang. During the call, the pastor asked him, ‘So when are you getting married?’ And my ex replied, ‘Daddy, I never see girl wey I go marry. If I think say I want a woman, I’ll carry am show you.’ And I still stayed.
Every Saturday, while I was outside washing clothes, he would go to the kitchen, make food for himself, eat, turn on the generator, go into his room, switch on the AC, and sleep. Meanwhile, I’d still be outside under the sun washing. When he woke up and saw me still working, he’d just say, ‘You don’t say oh, it’s not really worth it.’
That soup I cooked had to last a whole week. And I stayed.
He was abusive. Whenever he beat me, he would later start begging. But in the middle of begging, he would begin making advances. If I resisted, he would force himself on me. After everything, he would say, ‘You don’t say as I beat you, so as man, you don do now, your mind go calm down.’ Even while I was crying in pain, he didn’t stop. And I stayed for four years.
I got pregnant, and now he’s a deadbeat.
At some point, we even found out he had a low sperm count after a test. He was worried because no woman had ever gotten pregnant for him. I still went out of my way to try to help. Later, I got pregnant.
When we went out and he picked up his friends, he would ask me to leave the front seat and sit at the back so his friend could sit in front.
On his birthday, I used my little savings to buy him clothes and perfumes. He didn’t celebrate mine, but I understood he was broke. When I gave him the gifts, he just dropped them on the bed without even saying thank you.
Every Saturday, after washing clothes, I would go to the market, buy foodstuff, come back with heavy bags, and he would watch me struggle without helping.
One day, close to Christmas, we were driving when my phone rang. He got angry, accused me, and started shouting while driving recklessly on the highway. I was scared for my life.
Sometimes I would cook, clean, and be exhausted. When he came back and I was already asleep, instead of eating the food I kept for him, he would wake me up just to satisfy himself.
And through all of this, I stayed.
If you think you’ve ever done stupid things for love… just remember my story.”
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