A Nigerian lady has advised men against treating women they are dating as investments, urging them to prioritise their personal and financial growth.

In a video shared on X, she warned men against spending heavily on women with the expectation that such investments would benefit them in the future.

According to her, men should focus on improving themselves rather than using their resources to transform their partners.

> “Your biggest mistake as a man is for you to see woman as an investment. Instead of you to be investing in yourself, you’re investing in a woman. You will definitely regret it.”

She further cautioned men against spending money to make their partners financially or socially successful, arguing that such support could leave them disappointed if the relationship eventually ends.

The lady also claimed that some women may view men who support them financially as stepping stones rather than long-term partners.

> “A woman that is desperate will use anything that comes her way to get to the top. You’re not even her full stop at all. You’re just a stepping stone.”

Her comments have sparked mixed reactions online, with some users agreeing that men should prioritise self-development and financial independence, while others argued that supporting a partner can be a normal part of a healthy relationship.

The debate has continued to generate discussions about love, financial responsibility, expectations and investment in relationships.