A woman has shared an emotional account of her ongoing relationship with a married man, admitting that despite feelings of guilt and several attempts to leave, she has been unable to end the affair.
According to her, the relationship began after the man allegedly told her that he and his wife were heading for a divorce. However, she later discovered that the marriage was still intact and described his wife as a kind and respectful person.
The woman revealed that meeting the man’s wife in person deepened her sense of guilt. She said the encounter became even more difficult after hearing about the couple’s history, the struggles they overcame together, and the potential impact the situation could have on their children.
She explained that she initially ended the relationship after the meeting but later reconciled with the man after he repeatedly begged her to stay.
Despite acknowledging the emotional damage the situation has caused, she admitted she remains attached to him and finds it difficult to walk away.
According to her, the relationship brings her happiness while also leaving her burdened by shame and guilt. She stressed that she harbours no ill feelings toward the man’s wife and sympathizes with her situation.
In her post, she wrote:
> “Ifeeeee this is mee. I need to go to rehab if there’s one for people like me. I think I’m possessed or this man has used something on me. I’m Mpasa my friends have talked and prayed but I feel stuck. I’m currently dating a married man that told me earlier that him and his wife are getting a divorce. This was 3 years ago only for me to find out a year into the relationship that the wife is a sweet soul.
I had never dated a married man before then but the love this man shows me is something I’ve never had before. I confronted him, he begged me and said he loves me and we should continue until I find my own man. I agreed I don’t even know why.
His wife came to my work place to see me I was so scared and shocked. How did she enter, she’s friends with my ED. She sat with me in my office, told me how she met her husband, how they hustled together to have their wealth today, how close he is with his children and if they know about me, they’ll lose respect for their dad.
I cried that day because I felt ashamed. I ended it with him but he barged into my house in anger and from anger to begging and that’s how I slipped back.
The wife has called me up to 4 times since then and I have stopped picking her calls because of shame. I tell myself I’m single and looking for a relationship but almost everyone in Lagos knows I’m dating this man. Where do I go from here? Ife I swear I’ve tried to leave but now I’ve given up.
Maybe this is my fate to be a second wife. Maybe I need prayers from the community please. I want to let go. The crazy part is this man is not a womaniser, our love just keeps getting tighter and I feel more ashamed but I can’t cut him off. He makes me happy and I am sad for myself that I am doing this to the wife.
I know you may not understand and I know maybe I’m just ranting here. The wife follows you and I hope if she reads it, she knows I feel stuck and it is nothing against her…”
Her story has since generated discussions online, with many people sharing varying opinions on relationships, emotional attachment, accountability, and the challenges of ending complicated romantic situations.