A young lady has sparked online discussions by publicly listing her conditions for marriage.
The woman, known as Gra Xie on Facebook, expressed her expectations in a viral post that emphasized independence, equality, and collaborative decision-making.
No Bride Price, No Surname Change
Gra Xie has made it clear that she will not accept the traditional bride price for herself.
She also stated that she has no intention of adding her husband’s surname to her own, and that any children born from the marriage will bear both parents’ names.
Equality Above All
The lady emphasized that marriage should be a partnership between equals. She stated that her future husband would not be her “head” or “leader,” and that major decisions would be made jointly, with compromises reached by both parties.
her words:
“No bride price will be paid on my head for any reason.
- If we have children, they will bear both my name and your name.
- I am not going to add your name or surname to my name.
- The number of children we would birth will be my decision to make not yours.
- Aside carrying the pregnancy to term there is no other responsibility you cannot carry out e.g bathing the kids, feeding them, changing diapers etc.
- We both have equal rights and say so before any significant decision is made, we would table it and have a discussion then either meet up in the mid point or we go for the superior idea.
- You are not my head, you are not my leader. We are partners, we are equals, we are adults.
- We would have a court wedding.
- There’s no room for polygamy; the moment you decide to bring another woman, I have the right to leave.
- House chores will be outsourced.
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