A Nigerian woman has resorted to social media to educate other women about a tactic that made her marriage last five years.
According to her, the key is patience, timing, and knowing how to properly communicate with your husband.
The lady explained that one of the most essential things she did in her marriage was to not reply when her spouse was unhappy or shouting.
She added that this strategy kept arguments from developing and helped her keep the peace at home.
She stated that her mother taught her to remain composed even when she was provoked.
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“First, when my man talk I don’t talk. If he like let him shout on me… I will not do it. Why? Because I was trained properly because my mother trained me well. As a woman, when a man is talking — I mean your husband — you don’t talk back. Until una don marry, na when this post go begin to concern una.”
She emphasised the value of timing when discussing differences.
Instead of arguing in a hot time, she suggests that women wait for a calm or good environment, such as when the spouse is relaxing or eating.
“See as a woman, most of your Celebrities, most of your people online that you love that are married… when their husband is talking they don’t talk. They don’t argue especially when they know that this man is angry. They find a better time, a perfect time to respond to their husband.”
The lady recommended ladies to communicate gently, using positive moments to discuss difficulties.
She recounted making special dinners or using private moments to gently bring up concerns, rather than addressing her spouse aggressively.
“Either when he’s happy, probably eating, you have already made a special meal for him because you want to communicate something to him. You want to tell him that this thing he did to you or said to you is wrong. You didn’t like it… At the moment you’ll say, ‘Baby, before anything, I want to talk to you about something,’ then communicate.”
She recommended ladies who are not yet married to consider these lessons before going into significant relationships.
“If you can’t do these things I’m telling you, just hold on until you are really ready to settle down.”
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