A Nigerian lady has narrated how her experience in a church choir almost pushed her into a lifestyle she never intended to live, blaming excessive demands placed on young female members.
According to her, she joined the choir out of passion for singing shortly after secondary school, but soon realised the group imposed constant requirements for multiple uniforms, shoes, and accessories for different services.
She said the pressure to always appear aesthetically pleasing became overwhelming, especially for members from humble backgrounds.
The lady alleged that many young girls in the choir resorted to unhealthy means to keep up with the demands, while those who couldn’t afford the items were sidelined, humiliated, and treated as irrelevant.
Disturbed by the environment and its impact on her mental well-being, she said she eventually withdrew from the choir and returned to the congregation, despite facing gossip and backlash.
She warned young people to be cautious of religious spaces that prioritize appearance over welfare, stressing that no one should feel pressured into compromising their values to fit in.
Her words …
“Church nearly turned me to a runs girl. I was this close to becoming a runs girl. Because of what? Church. How did it happen? I was in the choir, innocently. I love singing. I had a very, very strong alto. So, while I was in the choir, I noticed that these people have series of clothes that we wear. When I say clothes, I mean clothes. We have pink camisole, yellow camisole, green camisole, this suit, that suit, this shoe, that shoe. Different colors for different Sunday services. And let me tell you, we do two Sundays on Sunday basis. So imagine that. And we have to change clothes. Now, I was just a young girl that, you know, just finished secondary school. And I joined the choir. These people were so demanding of us as young girls that I literally saw most of my mates in the choir turn to a low shoe before my very eyes. Why? Because they were trying to meet up with the demands of the choir.
These people, they nearly destroyed me, but I caught myself. I caught myself because, I mean, This thing didn’t sit well with me. Why are you guys so demanding? And if you don’t have these clothes, they will relegate you to the background. They will treat you like a nobody.
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