Apostle Johnson Suleman, a popular cleric, has sparked online debate after delivering a blunt message to men ahead of Valentine’s Day, warning them against taking responsibility for their partner.
During his sermon, the popular preacher questioned the mindset of men who feel compelled to do for women what their father could not.
In his words, he said:
“How do you want to do for her what her father could not do? Stop carrying people’s issues on your head. You cannot be a father to who you did not birth.”
He emphasized that being a fiancé does not imply inheriting unresolved family problems or spiritual battles, but rather a clear understanding of one’s role leading up to marriage.
He believes that love should be guided by wisdom and capacity rather than pressure or competition, especially in today’s tough economy where many people are already struggling.
“You are a fiancé, not a father. You can’t inherit the demons her father saw and avoided. If she comes to you for school fees and God has blessed you, pay. But if you’re struggling, pray,” he added.
His comments have sparked mixed reactions online. One commentator wrote, “Finally, someone is telling men the truth.” Another said, “Valentine hype is ridiculous. Love isn’t about material things.”
Apostle Johnson Suleman’s advice reminds men that relationships work best when built on balance, understanding, and realistic expectations — not social pressure or Valentine hype.