S*x is one of the major issues people are having in their marriages and this often times leads to divorce. Usually, the major issues marriages face are s*x, finance, religion and communication. The reason communication is added to the list is because a lot of people don’t tend to understand their partners and then they say, “I’m done, I can’t have this anymore”.

Now to our main subject of discussion – s*x. Some of the myths that surround s*x are what s*x isn’t. Number one, s*x is not a devil’s idea. The devil didn’t create sex so there’s no need for you to have s*x with your partner and then kneel down to ask God for forgiveness. Unfortunately, there are lots of people like that. You find some couples who insist on praying before intercourse and others even still pray after.

Second issue is the length or duration of a normal sex. The right duration is actually 5-10 minutes and 30 minutes to 1 hour. This is medically proven and that’s why you see a lot of people especially men, doing drugs, using s*x enhancement pills and the likes in order to meet up to a standard that has been a narrative that the media and pornography have been selling for only God knows how long, thereby making these things unrealistic and making it difficult for people to be able to bond in the place of s*x.

A normal human being and an average man who is not on steroids is supposed to have s*x for 5 or 10 minutes at the maximum. One would say what now happens to a woman who loves s*x and can go for hours. It would be difficult to satisfy a woman or bring the woman to orgasm in five minutes because a woman is like an engine that needs to be warmed before you can get the right result or get the engine to accelerate and give you the service that you require.

The size of the man’s manhood also matters a lot. The preference of the man’s size is as a result of stories shared by people, the media and the way the whole thing is being painted, it makes most women feel that if its not big then they can’t derive any pleasure. Well, news flash, not every man is big down there and what a woman needs to have an orgasm is not very far from the exterior of the woman’s genitals.

Lastly, people who feel that when a woman’s clitoris is cut off, you’ll be able to tame her or cut down her sexual appetite. Well, a woman can actually enjoy s*x without the clitoris, so its a waste of time putting your girl child through that process of gender mutilation. With all these said, let’s now talk about what s*x should be.

S*x is designed for pleasure, its a stress reliever and it makes you feel not ashamed with your partner. There’s an exchange that goes on in the place of s*x and that is part of intimacy, its like the apex of intimacy and you should not in any way play with that aspect of your marriage. Its something that makes it difficult for you to stay angry with your partner or be angry with him/her for too long.

What people should understand is that you don’t need enhancers to be able to enjoy s*x. Truth is that when you introduce enhancers to your intimacy with your partner, you make it even more difficult for you to be able to satisfy each other, you become insatiable. I mean who can compete with a machine. This makes it difficult for you to experience intimacy in the place of s*x. Besides, there are a lot of benefits with good s*x. You may not have great sex all the time as a married couple but you can at least have good s*x.

Great s*x happens every now and then but good s*x you can maintain. Sometimes its you giving your partner because its not everytime that both of you are going to be in the mood. A lot of couples have problems with this. You hear a man say I can’t make love to her because she’s not in the mood but if you’re patient, midway she’ll pickup. Like we mentioned earlier, women are like engines that need to be warmed up because ypu don’t just start a car and drive it, so are women.

In conclusion, a lot of foreplay will save you all the stress and humping. S*x shouldn’t be a chore but an act you derive pleasure from. Learn to play with your partner, tease each other and make fun of each other during love making, say funny things and enjoy the whole process.

This would go a long way, it would build more intimacy between you two, help you grow fond of each other and save your marriage from collapse at the end of the day.

Source: dailyadvent